Fab 5 Father’s day tribute…

Today we celebrate the men who have raised us, fed us, encouraged us, chastised us and lifted us up. I wanted to dedicate a blog post to some of the men who have been there for me.

I have been blessed to have some AMAZING men in my life, but these helped to shape me and helped me develop and appreciate my Fab 5.

Faith~

My Uncle Albert was the first man to make us go and take us to church and Sunday School. He has been a member of the same church all of my life and serves as a Deacon there. He ALWAYS goes to church. There are no bedside Baptist Sunday mornings for Uncle Albert.  My favorite memories are of him standing in the front of Friendship Baptist Church in Osierfield, Ga leading devotion and raising hymns like ‘A charge to keep, I have’. Even though when I was little I thought he was saying ‘Ray Charles the keys I have’ 😂🤷🏾‍♀️ When I think about Faith, Uncle Albert is the first man that comes to my mind.

Fitness~

For me when I think about fitness, I first think about my mental and emotional health….my self love and self esteem.  And the man that has always been my cheerleader is my daddy, Sam Brown. He ALWAYS makes me feel like I’m the most important person in the world. If you think I’m too strung out on compliments or over dosed on confidence, *Drake Voice* blame him! I don’t think we have ever had a conversation that didn’t include a compliment. Thank you Daddy for making sure I always felt good about myself and keeping me self esteem healthy.

Family~

This was TOUGH! Because when I think about family, so many of my uncles and cousins come to mind. Uncle Carl always had family at his house. My cousin Ricky loved his family more than anyone I know. And my cousin Uncle Bobo  is basically the family spokesperson at all family events. (cousin Uncle explanation…he’s my mom’s first cousin but he is older than us so we always called him Uncle🤷🏾‍♀️) But the man that embodies family to me is my Uncle Ronnie Bouie.  Living in a small town, people always wanted to know ‘who your folks were’. If I mentioned the last name Bouie, I was always asked ‘you some kin to Ronnie? Boy I love Ronnie! You are from a good family. The Bouie’s are  good folks.’ Not only was he well known and basically the face of our family, he always made time for his family. He could be working and if you rode by he would stop and come and hug you! He also had the most kids of all of my aunts and uncles so we know how important family was to him. 😂  I love you Uncle Ronnie, RIP!

Finance~

When I think about money, the first name that comes to mind is Bruce Scruggs. Bruce was my step dad for many years and he really took the time to teach me about money and what it was for. He worked long hours to provide for us. I remember his Mom used to say, ‘Bruce you trying to make all the money at Delco!’ 😆 Bruce taught me that making money is great but being happy is what’s important. He worked those long hours so that we wouldn’t have to. He wanted us all to go to college and have careers where we wouldn’t have to work long hours to provide for our families. A lesson that I pass on to my kids. Thank you Bruce! RIP

Fun~

This list could get long. All of the men, especially my uncles and cousins know how have fun. But there is one that I think my entire family will agree is THE MOST FUN…Robert Bouie, Jr, or Uncle June as he was loving known to us all. I learned  how to handle being picked on early in life. Not because I was bullied at school but because my Uncle June was the roast KING! 😄 I don’t care how good you THOUGHT you looked he was going to clown you! And he laughed harder at his own jokes than anyone else. His laugh was infectious and I described it as a ‘snicker’. He was a mess. The clown of our family! I know heaven is laughing daily at his jokes! RIP Uncle June!

Happy Father’s day to all of the men out there that are making a difference in someone’s life. We see you, we love you, and today we honor you!

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~AB

Chasing Bliss Soundtrack….Summer ’18

It’s almost Summer. Well actually,  if you live in the South like I do, it has felt like  Summer for a few weeks already.  But the season officially begins in a few days.  During the Summer I spend a lot of time on my balcony enjoying the early mornings and late evenings(that’s when my balcony is shaded and isn’t 100 degrees). In the mornings, I’m normally having water or tea and I’m meditating, but in the evenings, I’m having wine or a frozen drink and I’m listening to music. So for the past few days I’ve been working on my summer soundtrack.  Right now it’s only 10 songs but as more songs permeate my spirit  I will add to the list.  I chose songs that increase my vibe, make my foot shake and that I can sing the words to.

Here is the list…

‘Zoom’ The Commodores

‘Nice for What’ Drake

‘Me, Myself and I’ Beyonce

‘Baby I’m A Star’ Prince

‘As’ Stevie Wonder

‘That’s What I Like’ Bruno Mars

‘Bitch, Don’t Kill My Vibe’ Kendrick Lamar

‘Treasure’ Bruno Mars

‘Broken Clocks’ Sza

‘Best LIfe’ Cadi B feat Chance the Rapper

Here is the link, if you have Tidal feel free to download away!

What songs do you have on your summer soundtrack?

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~AB

My morning routine…..

There was a time where I would wake up with BARELY enough time to get dressed and rush out the door for work. I would set my alarm, hit snooze fifty-leven times, jump up in a rush, yell for the kids to get up, rush them to get dressed, rush through getting dressed myself, grab breakfast out of the toaster and the microwave and drive to school/work rushed and irritated and still half asleep. After the kids got older, a little changed but not much. I still rushed through my mornings and subsequently through my day. Then I met a coworker who told me she woke up every morning at 4:30am….on purpose. She said that she used that quiet time in the mornings to make breakfast, do laundry, and just enjoy time to herself.  I thought it was a great idea but still didn’t take to it. Once I moved to Columbus about four years ago, I finally saw the value of waking up early and having some time to myself. It was initially just about 15-30 minutes and I didn’t do anything special. I just made sure that I was fully awake. As time went on, I started getting up early to go workout. Because my workout ended at 6am, I still had two hours before I had to be at work.  I wasted that time by trying to get in another quick nap or being on social media or my phone.  I would either wake up and rush to get ready or realize I lost track of time on social media and still feel rushed! But in past two years, I realized that I could use that time so much better. I developed a morning routine that lets me maximize my time in the morning and prepare myself for my day.

Here is my morning routine, based on my fab five, of course.

Faith….my morning starts with prayer and meditation. Even when the rest of the list doesn’t get done, I don’t skip these two. Before I even get out of the bed, I pray and then meditate for 15 minutes. Full disclosure: I have fallen back asleep while meditating. Thank God I always set a timer. 🙂  When time permits, I try to also go ahead and read my daily devotional.  Then I find an affirmation for the day and try to hold it in my mind for at least 17 seconds(the time it takes a thought to start manifesting…per the law of attraction)

Fitness…this is either 8 ounces of water and/or a workout. Depending on my schedule for the rest of the day, I may have to get my workout in before work. It’s hard but it’s an amazing way to start my day.

Family…Walk Mocha. Being a fur parent of an inside dog, means morning walks so that she can wake up and use the bathroom. It’s hard on those cold and rainy mornings but imagine how you would feel if you couldn’t go first thing in the morning! This could also go in fitness because it’s a really good time to get some fresh air. I also reply to texts and messages that I missed because I went to bed early. For the most part, this ensures that my first interactions of the day are with positive high vibe people.

Finances….I like to balance my checkbook, pay bills and do any other financial chores first thing in the morning. Mornings are when I’m at my energetic peak.  It’s really hard for me to focus after 4pm, I basically shut down mentally. So I try to get as much done that requires thinking early in the day.

Fun….While I’m getting showered and dressed for work, I love to listen to podcasts, music playlist, audible books or youtube videos with fun or uplifting messages. In my job I deal with people that are not always happy, getting as much fun in my day as early as possible is a great way to keep negativity out.

While not necessary, morning routines really help me to stay mentally, physically and spiritually balanced throughout my day. If you’re tired of feeling rushed in the morning, just start by just waking up 15 minutes earlier and lying in bed just allowing your body to wake up. It will make a huge difference in your day.

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~AB